Facing the task of a love one’s funeral service may be overwhelming. A funeral service is the important event in the grieving process, so it needs to be planned really well. We are all well aware that a funeral service is an event to come together to share in grief and remember and celebrate the life of your loved ones. Many people are not aware that a funeral can be customized by a funeral celebrant. A funeral is conducted in honor of a loved one’s memory. Although family members and loved ones can be incredibly sad, a funeral is the opportunity to honor your loved ones with a proper meaning that reflects their personality. If you need a celebrant who will give you peace of mind, support, offer a range of choices and create a personalized ceremony, then I, Frank Servello, am at your service.
As a certified life Celebrant in Brunswick, I am honored and privileged to spend some quality time with you when someone you love and close to your heart has just left. It is understandable that the first few days after the passing are extremely saddening. Death is usually a stressful situation and you may be still in shock or denial when we meet. The information provided can be very difficult for some newly beavered and deeply distressed people to undertake. My role will be to stitch together the information provided by you and create a heart touching ceremony, along with a patchwork quilt of words whose pattern of words flows from one edge to another forming a seamless narrative, and slowly the beautiful words create a mental image of the deceased.
A ceremony is deeply personalized, personal set of words which cannot be repeated to another family’s occasion. As a life celebrant, the joy and immense happiness I receive when I create ceremonies for both the deceased and beavered is very satisfying and comforting. There are some elements which will recur in ceremonies as there are limited number of poems, which have been penned down to bring comfort of the bereaved, without speaking about hereafter, and using similar inappropriate metaphors. Comfort is very important in a funeral ceremony. A good and a well-organized funeral ceremony will bring comfort to the bereaved. A perfect funeral ceremony is when people say that your loved one would have loved that. At the end of the funeral, feeling that it has been a helpful experience, then I believe that I have done a perfect job. A perfect well-knit funeral ceremony does not try to deny the pain and the sorrow of the death of your loved ones, but finds a smooth way and makes it less unbearable.
It is an obvious fact that day after someone dies will often be painful for you, as it’s the normal human nature to react upon losing someone close to your heart. And if a death comes after a prolonged illness or suffering, then it brings relief to their family and love ones. However, there is always a sense of guilt of how can I be relieved that my dear loved one has passed? However, it’s quite strange that someone unknown coming to your house and ask questions about the deceased person is quite intrusive, and can be quite difficult to handle the situation. This is the main reason I try to be as perspective and match the same tone as with yours and to lead the flow of questions as naturally as possible. I always prefer taking hand written notes and mental notes as well because of some possible reasons –if a person is aware that their words are being recorded, then the person becomes conscious, and a proper truth wouldn’t be revealed about the deceased.
As a qualified life celebrant, I can help you to plan a well-knit funeral, which can relieve your burden which you carry, the period between the death of someone you love and the moment when you have to say a final good bye to their body. A funeral ceremony conducted by myself is performed with compassion, understanding, and just the right amount of ingredient to put up the best, which will gradually leave you at peace with the world, and a feeling that you have started that essential journey from grief and sorrow towards healing and acceptance. As a life celebrant I am the main host of the celebration and officiate at the service. I can offer religious as well as non-religious ceremonies and perform the funeral ceremony as well as introduce people who have come to pay tribute.
I’ll always come to meet you in your own home, or another mutually agreeable place to discuss how the Funeral Ceremony for your loved one takes shape. I realise it’s not always possible for families to do that though, so I am equally happy to discuss these things by telephone, e-mail or zoom.
I’m an attentive, good listener and a patient man, so I place no real restriction on time when I come to meet you…sometimes it takes time for people to open up and let the stories of their loved one flow. Looking through photographs and listening to music often jogs memories of happy times. I absolutely love hearing about each person’s life story and what other elements will come together to make their final day both fitting and special. What you have so openly shared with me during our meeting then allows me to create a Ceremony that is both a celebration of their life and a tender mourning of their loss; remembering the best of your loved one in what will, undoubtedly, be your biggest, single tribute to them.
You’ll always receive a draft of the Ceremony I create for your loved one – and we can make changes to that, if necessary, to get it ‘just right’. My aim is for you to be 100% happy with everything and feel fully involved and supported throughout our time together.
I’m professionally trained and accredited by Australian Celebrations.